Sometimes I fear I'm not perceived the way I want to be perceived. I worry what people think. (come on, I'm only human) And I take what people say to heart far more often than I should. So when a co-worker told me I reminded her of Betty Boop it bothered me, it made me think of a character whose petite and girlie (god forbid). And it rubbed me the wrong way. And then we were discussing cars and I was asked what my first car was and both girls said, "I could see you in a bug." I was repulsed at the idea, something so dainty and girlie... so not how I see myself.
So, a couple weeks later I was talking with that same co-worker, still slightly annoyed at her observations, and so I brought it up and she said something that I thought perfectly described me,
"No, you misunderstood. You're really versatile. You're the type of girl I could see driving a bug, but just as easily driving a jacked up Hummer."
I loved that description.
She went onto say, "And when I said you reminded me of Betty Boop, remember that she's curvy and petite and wears red lipstick and she's girlie, but she also rocks a leather jacket and rides a motorcycle." She smiled.
So, even though I worried unnecessarily (always). Her clarification of how she saw me really hit home. It made me feel like she really got me, that I wasn't being perceived in a way that bothered me, that my co-workers actually 'got me.' And it was the best feeling.
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